What To Do When My Child Doesn’t Want To Go To School

Posted on Jun 26 19

As a parent, we understand the importance of leaving our kids in school. However, kids may feel anxious away from their parents. What can we do when they don’t want to leave us?

1. Focus on the positives.
Remind them about the fun times happening at school. For example, “They have lots of puzzles / blocks in the classroom!” This will further encourage them to focus on the positive things rather than their fear of being separated from you.


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2. Show reassurance.
Children need to learn how to cope with anxiety but they may not feel that they can. Help them out by sharing your trust in their ability to handle things. Simple encouragement like “You can do it!” and “You’re brave, right?” goes a long way in empowering your children to have confidence and trust in themselves.


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3. Don’t stress your child.
It’s easy to say, “If you don’t stop crying, I’m going to be late for work.” But this is pushing responsibility on your child and that adds to their stress. Avoid making it seem that the blame is on them for feeling anxious of being separated from you.


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4. Identify the source of anxiety.
Understanding the source of the fear is the first step in overcoming it. They may miss their parents so they often test out the limits of what they can get away with. Try to vocalize their feelings so they may understand what’s bothering them.


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5. Demonstrate a link between you and the teachers.
A good relationship between you and the teachers will help them feel more comfortable. When you show your child that you trust their teacher, it will be easy for them to follow. Cambridge teachers are always ready to work with you to soothe away children’s anxiety with a smile and a lot of fun activities.


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Separation anxiety is tough but overcoming it is part of the journey.

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